We are often taught how to live, offer rules and recipes for happiness. But life is a little more complicated. She is chaotic and unpredictable. What will actually help to cope with everyday difficulties and find joy even in the most difficult times?
Happiness is a worthy goal that you should strive for. The main thing is to understand what this state means for you personally, not to install the bar is too high and not allow other people and circumstances to knock you out of the way. The clinical psychologist Karen Nimmo is sure of this. She collected five important thoughts that will help to keep afloat in any everyday storm.
“Everything is somehow indifferent to me, absolutely all the same,”-so often say people who have come to therapy. Moreover, they do not necessarily have clinical depression: the cause of this inner emptiness and the lack of motivation can be burnout and fatigue.
However, it is important to be involved in what is happening in your life. Even if at the moment you do not give a damn about yourself and the situation, make an effort on yourself and take at least a tiny step forward.
Creativity is a life buoy so necessary for many in dark times. Karen Nimmo advises to acquire a hobby or a hobby, which will be pleasant to return, or at least do something more often with your hands-cook food, saddle, collect puzzles, draw, cut down, knit. Creativity stimulates the brain, so make sure that your schedule has time for him.
We are used to believe that the world is the same as we see it, but this is only our point of view. If you constantly look at the surrounding reality through the same lenses, our focus is scattered.
The next time something bad happens, try to stop and look at what is happening from a different angle, ideally-through the eyes of another. You can disagree with his point of view, but at least this will expand your view angle and the idea of the world. The ability to understand what situation the interlocutor perceives is real art. But the result is worth striving for it.
And if it is not inherent in you, just talk to people, everywhere – in the park, on the street, on the parking lot, in line in the cashier. Keep what Small Talk is called in the UK, chatter, with unpretentious secular conversations.
Many claim that they cannot stand empty chatter, but Karen Nimimo believes that a “small” conversation can turn into a “big” conversation at
any moment. And even if not, still try to appreciate such conversations.
Perhaps your conversation gave a lot, if not for you, then the interlocutor. This has already been said and written about this, and yet it is not a sin to repeat again: social ties are important, not only close and cramped. Any positive interaction is important: even ordinary laughter, smile, exchange of a couple of phrases can cheer up both us and another.
There are really difficult days in which it is difficult to find at least something joyful. It happens that the world checks us for strength. And yet in any darkness you can distinguish a ray of light. So do not leave attempts – and if you succeed, celebrate your victory.
